Life is Hard AND You Can Do Hard Things

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This morning, I came across a Facebook post that reminded me of something I already knew, but desperately needed to hear again.

 I've been struggling to do something hard for the past few months. I know it's the right thing for me. I also know that if I go all in and do it, I'll feel better, have more energy, and get rid of the brain fog that sometimes holds me back, and keeps me from experiencing that feeling of true freedom--which is something I've craved for a long time.

The thing I need to do feels almost impossible. I've been trying all of my self-coaching tricks on myself, but it hasn't gotten any easier to get myself moving in the right direction.

This has been an awesome reminder for me because my coach brain wants to say, "Just change your thoughts, and it will be easy!"

But changing your thoughts isn't a simple task. 

It requires dedication, self-reflection, emotional processing, and a lot of patience! In other words, it's work.

One of my clients recently said to me, "I've heard my friends talk about the 'work' they were doing in coaching, and I never understood it until now. But this sh*t is WORK!"

And she's right!

It can feel nearly impossible when you're doing the work of changing neural pathways with decades of training behind them. And sometimes, as a coach, I forget how challenging this work can be. 

AND--I know I have the power to change my thoughts and think about this situation in a more empowering way. I've just got to keep showing up to do the work.

You can do the same thing in your life, too. You can change your thoughts, which will change your energy, and, ultimately, change your life. But it's usually not instantaneous. It's a process that could take months--or even years--to find a new thought that will allow you to change with ease. 

This morning, I had a breakthrough! I found a thought that is finally moving me in the right direction. In fact, it could be the key to making this change. It's not the final thought on my "thought ladder", but it's a great thought for creating momentum so I can open my mind to find something even better.

The new thought I'm choosing is the one from that Facebook post I saw this morning:

This is just a thought, but it's a thought I believe. I've got lots of evidence that I know how to make it through the challenges of life (like that time I severed my hand)!

This is an awesome discovery, because I don't have to make a huge shift to get results. I can choose to shift my thinking just a degree or two, and then do the hard thing anyway! For the first time in months, I'm excited to start working toward my goal!

So if today is one of those days where you're avoiding the hard things in life because you think there might be an easier way to get what you want, stop beating yourself up. Don't allow yourself to be discouraged. Instead, just accept that sometimes, life is hard? AND that's okay! Because you're a badass, who can do hard things! That's what I'm choosing to think today!

So remember, sometimes, life really is hard--AND you can do hard things!

If you need some support along the way, I've got you! Visit my 1:1 Coaching page for details on how to work with me!


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