“Do you trust me?”
Those are the words I said to my 14-year-old daughter right before I unsuccessfully taught her to drift.
We were in a side-by-side—both of us for the first time in our lives—and a few minutes earlier, I had successfully completed my first drift. Ever. So, of course, I was the perfect person to instruct my 14-year-old, unlicensed daughter on how to do the same (said with extreme sarcasm).
The correct answer to that question would have been, “No, Mom. No, I don’t!”
But being the obedient and adventurous child she was, she nodded, then took off across the hot, sand-covered asphalt.
It didn’t end well…
…unless you consider a near amputation, a $65,000 life flight to the nearest Level-1 hospital, and a surgeon who said, “I’ll do my best!” a success.
Nevertheless…that accident changed me.
I had always been a high-achieving, people-pleasing, self-abandoning perfectionist who spent decades trying to earn love by sacrificing myself.
I was also bitter. Exhausted. Full of shame and self-loathing. I looked like I was doing fine from the outside—married, raising kids, active in church—but inside, I was slowly dying.
To put it simply, I was miserable!
StilI, I skillfully held everything together until it all came undone—literally.
When I woke up in the ICU the next morning…
…something cracked open. For the first time in my life, I wanted to fight for myself.
I wanted to live—not just survive.
Over the next 5 years…
…I underwent 20+ surgeries to repair my hand and arm.
But the bigger transformation happened inside.
I started rebuilding the relationship with myself.
I dismantled the beliefs that told me I wasn’t enough.
I focused on silencing the brutal inner critic I call my "Inner Mean Girl."
And I questioned everything I’d ever been taught.
And I mean everything.
The accident saved me in all kinds of ways.
Most importantly, it opened my eyes to the fact that I was living a life that had been designed for me by other forces — parents, prophets, and perfectionism.
All those outside voices had shaped not just the way I saw the world, but the way I saw myself.
I’d been taught throughout my life that I was inherently flawed…
That in order to be good, I had to sacrifice…well…everything.
For as long as I could remember, I’d been trying to fix myself—repenting for every errant thought, volunteering to serve, and wearing myself out trying to do all of it perfectly.
The truth is, I was trying to earn my ticket to heaven.
But when I stopped trying to fix myself and decided to focus on self-love instead, something changed.
I started to see my worth.
That was when the real healing began.
It didn’t happen overnight. In fact, it took years to unravel the conditioning that had taught me to despise myself.
But once I saw the truth, I couldn’t unsee it.
I wasn’t flawed at all. In fact…
I am perfect, exactly as I am.
Uncovering that truth led me away from the religion of my childhood and gave me the power to burn the rulebook I was raised with so I could reignite my passion for life.
That’s what this work is all about.
Your confidence.
Your power.
Your freedom.
Your ability to see yourself as a whole, complete and perfectly wonderful person.
Because here’s the truth:
You don’t have to try to be perfect. You don’t have to follow someone else’s rules. You don’t have to beat yourself up for who you are.
YOU DON’T HAVE TO BE MISERABLE.
Are you ready to rebuild self-trust and confidence
so you can finally live as the amazing, worthy woman you already are?
What you create in your life is entirely up to you…
You can create wealth and power.
Purpose and peace.
Humility and service.
Love and connection.
YOU GET TO CHOOSE!
Ready to get started?
Let’s do this!
Experience, Training & Credentials
Training matters. Especially when you’re working with women who’ve spent years being told what to think, how to feel, and who they’re allowed to be. So yes, I’m highly trained and I take ethical, professional coaching seriously.
An important note: my work is coaching, not therapy. I don’t diagnose or treat mental health conditions, and I don’t do trauma processing. If what you’re dealing with is best supported by clinical care, I’ll gladly help you find a licensed therapist and we can work alongside that support when appropriate.
Core Coaching Training
iPEC Certified Professional Coach (CPC)
iPEC COR.E Transitions Dynamics Specialist (TD)
iPEC Energy Leadership Index — Master Practitioner
The Life Coach School Certified Coach
Advanced Training
Advanced Certification in Trauma-Informed Relationship Coaching (Lindsay Poelman)
Certified Trauma Informed Professional (MTHS)
GCRR (Religious Recovery training)
International Coaching Federation, Professional Certified Coach 2021-2024
Coaching Experience
4000+ hours of private coaching helping women build confidence and resilience through difficult life transitions
100+ Private Clients
500+ hours of group coaching
Harmonize Women’s Retreat Leader and Creator
If you ever have questions about what I do, what I don’t do, or whether coaching is the right fit for you, you can ask me directly.
I’m not here to be your new authority. I’m here to help you build yours.
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SEVERED
A MEMOIR OF HOPE AND HEALING
Born into a home marked by profound dysfunction, Sandra Jarvis struggles to overcome the messages ingrained throughout her childhood. I’m not worthy. I’m not loveable. I’ll never be enough. Then a tragic accident nearly severs her right hand. Although the damage to her hand brings an entirely new set of problems, it also gives Sandra an unexpected opportunity not only to recover, but to begin severing herself from the lies that have always ruled her life, the ones she’s told herself to prove she’s not enough. Severed: a Memoir of Hope and Healing is the powerful true story of finding hope and purpose amid life’s challenges. It proves that peace is available even in life’s darkest moments, perhaps even plentiful.