REBUILD YOUR LIFE AFTER LEAVING RELIGION

Cor.E Energy | Certified Trauma Recovery | Certified Religious Recovery | Energy Leadership Index-Master Practitioner | Certified Relationship and Betrayal Trauma

Have you been asking yourself…

Did I actually choose this life…
or was it chosen for me?

How do I know which beliefs are mine…
and which ones need to be thrown in the trash?

How do I navigate family relationships…
especially those with different fundamental beliefs?

And who would I be if I stopped performing for others…
and started living for me?

If these questions sound familiar, congrats. You’re not going crazy—

YOU’RE JUST WAKING UP!

When I left religion, I thought I was just getting an extra day in my weekend.

I had no idea it would lead to questioning everything I’d ever been taught.

And not just my religious beliefs.

Suddenly, I was waking up in the middle of the night wondering if my personality was real, if I could trust myself with important decisions, and which parts of my life I’d ever actually chosen.

Somewhere in the middle of all that, I started asking some strange questions, like…

  • Am I actually a person? Or am I just a collection of habits?

  • Why do we wear clothes? And who decided on this rule?

  • If no one is watching me or judging what I do, does this life really matter?

That was when I realized I wasn’t just waking up—

I was coming out of deep conditioning.

And once I saw it, I couldn’t unsee it.

Hi…I’m Sandra!

If you’re here, my guess is you’ve seen it, too.

You were probably raised to believe that if you could just do everything right—say the right thing, wear the right smile, raise the perfect kids, keep the spotless house—then you’d finally be good enough. You thought worthiness was something you earned through obedience, sacrifice, and sheer exhaustion.

Am I right?

Me, too.

I was raised in a high-demand system that told me love was conditional, belonging was fragile, and control was salvation. I was the good girl. The perpetual volunteer. The overachiever. The woman who held it all together while quietly falling apart.

My life looked picture-perfect on the outside—but inside, I was drowning in self-doubt, shame, and invisible expectations I could never meet.

Then life cracked me open.

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A series of events—starting with a cancer diagnosis and followed by a rollover accident that nearly severed my right hand—shattered the illusion that perfection could keep me safe.

Before I knew it, I was in full-blown existential crisis mode, questioning everything I’d ever been taught.

I felt ashamed of my doubt.
Broken in ways I didn’t have language for.
I was unraveling all the way down to my core.
And it seemed like I was completely alone.

What followed was a long season of questioning, reflecting, untangling, and healing.

Eventually, I emerged knowing three things:

What I experienced wasn’t a crisis. It was an opportunity to untangle myself from perfectionism, people-pleasing, and the constant feeling that I was doing life wrong.

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The problem wasn’t that I was broken. The problem was that I’d spent my entire life trying to be “good” instead of being me.

I didn’t have to find new rules to replace the old ones. I could simply trust myself—my body, my instincts, my inner voice.

These truths became the heartbeat of my work.

If you’re in this place right now…

KNOW THIS…

YOU DON’T HAVE TO FIGURE IT OUT ALONE.

I work with smart, capable women who are stuck in an existential crisis
and don’t know how to navigate through it.

Together, we untangle what no longer fits
and reclaim your identity from the inside out.

I'm In!

What my clients are saying…

…it’s normal to feel lost, overwhelmed, or alone.

You’re not broken.

You don’t need fixing.

You need someone who gets it!

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Who I Work With

I work with women who are past the initial crisis and ready to move forward.

You might still be untangling old beliefs, patterns, and identities—but you’re no longer in survival mode. You’re stable enough to look back without being consumed by it and curious enough to imagine a future that feels expansive, not terrifying.

You’re ready to:

  • Release perfectionism, people-pleasing, and self-doubt

  • Stop reliving the past and start learning from it

  • Rebuild self-trust and inner authority

  • Create a life that actually feels like yours

  • Move forward with intention, clarity, and self-compassion

You don’t need fixing. You need space, perspective, and support as you step into your next chapter.

Who I Don’t Work With

I don’t work with women who are currently navigating active or unprocessed trauma.

If you’re in the middle of acute grief, ongoing abuse, severe emotional dysregulation, or trauma that still feels raw and destabilizing, coaching isn’t the right container yet—and that’s not a failure. It’s wisdom.

In those seasons, therapy, trauma processing, and nervous-system stabilization are essential first steps. Coaching is most effective after safety and regulation are in place.

If you’re unsure where you fall, we can talk it through together. I’ll always prioritize what’s truly supportive for you—even if that means pointing you toward a different kind of help.

I'm Ready to unbecome

This work isn’t about rehashing the past.
It’s about claiming your future.

If you’re ready to UN-BECOME everything they said you had to be

so you can discover the amazing, worthy woman you already are…

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Coming Soon!

Wait…That Was Optional? is a podcast for women navigating the weird, disorienting, sometimes hilarious aftermath of leaving religion. Hosted by Sandra Jarvis, each episode explores the questions no one warned you would come up—about identity, self-trust, conditioning, and why even normal things suddenly feel suspicious (including pants). With humor, wit, and grounded insight, this show offers companionship, clarity, and permission for anyone learning how to think—and live—for themselves. Join the waitlist to be among the first to hear the pilot episodes in January 2026!

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